We Can’t Always Recognize It

I’ve been doing a lot of research on narcissistic personality disorder for my upcoming book. However, during this time, I have discovered and researched another type of abuse, which is just as insidious. I wanted to talk and bring light to what’s called verbal abuse. It is categorized as a type of emotional abuse and can have severe and long-lasting effects on a person’s mental health and well-being. It can also be just as damaging as physical abuse. It’s essential to recognize the signs and take steps to address them. In this blog, we’ll explore some of the common signs of verbal abuse, coping strategies for dealing with it, and ways to heal and recover from its effects.

Signs of verbal abuse

I remember friends getting into altercations with their significant others when I was much younger. I would watch them scream at each other in an unhealthy manner and wonder to myself if this was a normal part of relationships. Similarly, we all know every relationship has its challenges, but how we handle these challenges proves our emotional intelligence.

Verbal abuse can take many forms and sometimes can be difficult to recognize at the moment. Some common examples include criticism, insults, belittling, name-calling, and using language to manipulate or control the other person. It often goes unnoticed or is dismissed as “just words.” Verbal abuse can include threats, yelling, and using language to create fear or anxiety in another person. Over time, this type of abuse can lead to feelings of low self-esteem, shame, and guilt. Verbal abuse can have a significant impact on mental health. Recognizing the signs of verbal abuse is an essential first step in addressing it and seeking help.

Coping strategies

Coping with verbal abuse can be challenging, but some strategies can help you if you’ve realized you are a victim of verbal abuse. Firstly, it’s essential to understand you are not at fault, no matter how much the abuser tries to convince you otherwise. The abuse was done to you and not because of anything you did or said. Seek support from friends and family. If you are not comfortable confiding in those closest to you, seek out a support group or a therapist if one is available to you. Sharing your experiences and feelings can be cathartic and help you process your emotions.

Additionally, and I mention this a lot in my articles, practicing self-care, such as exercising, meditating, or pursuing hobbies of interest, can help improve your mental health and self-esteem. Finally, it may be necessary to set boundaries with an abuser or even cut them out of your life to protect your well-being. Remember, verbal abuse is never acceptable. Everyone deserves respect and kindness.

Healing and recovery

Healing and recovery from verbal abuse can be a short or long process, depending on the trauma and duration of the abuse. Initially, healing begins with an acknowledgment of the abuse and its effects on your life. Recovery and healing can take time and effort. Prioritizing yourself is essential. Spend time with supportive friends and family, even if you don’t confide in them. Just being around supportive people can help you recover. Relaxation techniques like meditation and yoga can aid in healing as well. Additionally, it may be helpful to build healthy relationships and learn to set boundaries with others.

Forgiveness can also be an important part of the healing process, but it’s important to remember that forgiveness does not mean forgetting. It also does not involve excusing the abuser’s behavior. Instead, forgiveness involves letting go of anger and resentment toward the abuser and moving forward with your life.

Remember, healing from verbal abuse is a journey and doesn’t happen overnight. It’s essential to be patient and kind to yourself throughout the process. With time, support, and self-care, it is possible to recover from the effects of verbal abuse and live a fulfilling life.

Conclusion

In conclusion, verbal abuse can have severe and long-lasting effects on a person’s mental health and well-being. It’s essential to recognize the signs of verbal abuse and seek help if experiencing it.

Coping strategies such as seeking support, practicing self-care, and setting boundaries can help you protect your mental health and build a foundation for healing and recovery. I always encourage seeking out qualified therapists and support groups but if neither of those are options for you, please consider online or alternative therapies.

Remember, you are not to blame for the abuse. You did nothing wrong and deserve to be treated with respect and kindness. Healing and recovery from verbal abuse is a journey that requires time and effort. With patience and a commitment to your own well-being, it’s possible to overcome the effects of verbal abuse and live a whole and happy life.

**If you would like to read further on this topic, you can find more information at psychcentral.com and healthline.com.

Thanks for reading. –xxooC